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Toddler Biters can be Twins

I'm often asked the question 'How do I stop my toddler twin from biting/scratching the other?' Or 'my toddler from biting/scratching the baby?'. Why is it happening. Clearly the Toddler resents the attention the new baby is getting from THEIR Mum and if one of twins they would like ALL the attention instead of just [...]

2019-04-29T16:47:17+00:00 April 29th, 2019|

HOW DO WE LEARN OUR PARENTING SKILLS?

why do we sometimes find that we simply don't have the skills we need to parent our children successfully? One reason could be that we believe that one or both of our parents simply got it wrong when we were kids and we are trying to put it right when we come to be parents [...]

2018-08-03T14:56:49+00:00 August 3rd, 2018|

Non-identical boy/girl twins

These twins are often not recognised as twins by the general public who often believe that twins always means children of the same sex. The fact that there may also be differences in growth at all stages may contribute to this, with the larger child assumed to be the older one. When the fetus is [...]

2018-08-03T13:25:16+00:00 July 24th, 2018|

Are Identical Twins Always Identical?

In my edited book TWIN AND TRIPLET PSYCHOLOGY I discuss the factors that may contribute to differences in identical twins which I will summarise here:- Our genes account for approximately half of the development of most psychological traits with non shared environment contributing to the rest. IQ has been shown to be much more gene [...]

2018-05-21T18:32:32+00:00 May 21st, 2018|

Managing your child’s anger

Children like to attract their parents' attention. If they find that a piece of behaviour persuades the adult to stop whatever they are doing and concentrate on them, then they will keep repeating it like a squirrel pressing the lever for nuts. They've found out how to press our buttons! It doesn't seem to matter [...]

2018-04-08T16:00:03+00:00 April 8th, 2018|

Musings on my twin practice

When working with one of twins rather than a pair, I am aware that in the transference I represent the absent twin. But I have also become aware that I may be seen as the absent mother as well. This can be confusing as it is necessary to separate the two in order to work [...]

2018-03-25T15:49:16+00:00 March 25th, 2018|

Negative Attention

Children like to attract their parent's attention. If they find that a particular piece of behavior persuades their parents to stop doing whatever they are doing and concentrate on them, then they will keep repeating it. It doesn't seem to matter whether the behavior is positive or negative. There are degrees of negative attention from [...]

2018-03-10T14:18:23+00:00 March 10th, 2018|

The Couple Effect

Today I am putting on my twin therapist's hat and would like to talk about THE COUPLE EFFECT which effects so many of my clients young and old. Being part of a twin group affects twins in a variety of ways. The first way is through language. Not only does it effect the rate of [...]

2018-02-10T13:41:06+00:00 February 10th, 2018|

Agreeing about limits, limits anxiety!

There are many reasons why a child may be anxious and I list several of them in my APP ANXIETY ISLAND, but there can also be another reason - parents who disagree on many things and also about how to parent.  Good cop/bad cop may work at the police station, but children find this a good way [...]

2018-02-03T10:42:28+00:00 February 3rd, 2018|

parents disagreeing

I have talked about how parents disagreeing can make children anxious.  Often parents don't know why they react to their partner in a certain way.  Maybe there was someone in your childhood who provoked a similar reaction?  Are you getting your partner mixed up with them or think that they are just like them?  Was [...]

2017-11-18T14:23:10+00:00 November 18th, 2017|